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Gomez law merging and expanding as of January 2014.

Posted By: Katherine Beets
Date: 12/08/2013
Category: Matt Gomez

Keep an eye out for upcoming changes to the site and office! Kimberly Jantz, Katherine Beets, and Jeffrey Niese have joined Matt, and December will be a busy month as we work on this transition. We are excited to offer …

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Anything You Say on Facebook Can & Will Be Used Against You in a Court Of Law

Posted By: Matt
Date: 10/01/2013
Category: Matt Gomez

How Facebook Could Ruin Your Case Like the perpetually feuding families the Hatfields and the Mccoys, attorney Mitch Jackson’s client and his neighbors were involved in an ongoing dispute since September 2007. The neighbors had dumped trash into the client’s yard on a number …

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HOW FACEBOOK MAKES US UNHAPPY

Posted By: Matt
Date: 09/13/2013
Category: Matt Gomez

SEPTEMBER 10, 2013 HOW FACEBOOK MAKES US UNHAPPY POSTED BY MARIA KONNIKOVA No one joins Facebook to be sad and lonely. But a new study from the University of Michigan psychologist Ethan Kross argues that that’s exactly how it makes us feel. Over …

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Alimony

Posted By: Matt
Date: 08/20/2013
Category: Matt Gomez

Alimony…Once More With Feeling Understanding the intersection of human emotion and economic theory will help you serve your clients better as they navigate disagreements during marriage and during divorce. Justin A. Reckers and Robert A. Simon, 08/15/2013 Psychological, financial, and …

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Divorce and the Grieving Process

Posted By: Matt
Date: 07/11/2013
Category: Divorce

Divorce and the Grieving Process Posted: 07/08/2013 7:39 pm While there may be disagreement regarding whether or not divorce in and of itself is damaging to children, the more the adults argue, especially about the children, the more likely it is …

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How Much Does the Average Divorce Really Cost?

Posted By: Matt
Date: 06/28/2013
Category: Divorce Family Law

How Much Does the Average Divorce Really Cost? Posted: 05/30/2013 3:49 pm By Laura Seldon for GalTime.com When Madonna divorced Guy Ritchie in 2008, she reportedly settled with the famous filmmaker for $75 million as part of their divorce agreement. That’s nothing, however, compared to …

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How Reading Makes Us More Human

Posted By: Matt
Date: 06/25/2013
Category: Matt Gomez

How Reading Makes Us More Human A debate has erupted over whether reading fiction makes human beings more moral. But what if its real value consists in something even more fundamental? KAREN SWALLOW PRIORJUN 21 2013, 8:50 AM ET Mary …

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Police dashcam videos are open records

Posted By: Matt
Date: 06/04/2013
Category: Family Law Technology

Police dashcam videos are open records, Oklahoma appellate court rules The ruling won’t affect video taken by the Oklahoma Highway Patrol. Special legislation was passed several years ago that specifically exempts troopers from turning over dashcam videos. By Michael McNutt Published: June …

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Too Often, Teen Mothers Receive Shame Instead Of Support

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/24/2013
Category: Family Law

Too Often, Teen Mothers Receive Shame Instead Of Support By Tara Culp-Ressler on May 17, 2013 at 1:50 pm   (Credit: Pacific Standard Magazine) This week, news broke that a Michigan school district is barring two teens from displaying their pregnant bellies in their …

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Despite DNA, Dad’s Paternity Denied

Posted By: Matt
Date: 04/30/2013
Category: Divorce Family Law

By Michael Lindenberger Tuesday, Apr. 29, 2008 For nearly two years, James Rhoades, a university librarian in Tallahassee, has been fighting to establish in law what science and fact already have shown beyond any doubt: He is the biological father …

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Therapy Can Be an Important Part of the Divorce Process

Posted By: Matt
Date: 04/17/2013
Category: Divorce Family Law

One of the things that I have noticed over the course of my career as a family law attorney is that people going through the divorce process have an unwillingness to go to therapy even though they could benefit greatly …

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Parents With Disabilities Have Greater Risk of Losing Custody of Their Children

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Divorce Family Law

A report from the National Council on Disability finds that parents with physical or mental disabilities have a greater risk of losing custody of their children. The study says that the U.S. legal system needs to provide more support for these parents. …

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‘Divorce from hell’ began with $5,400 monthly alimony offer, ended with $1,500 installments

Posted By: Matt
Date: 04/16/2013
Category: Divorce Family Law

A month after their 2008 divorce case was filed in Pinellas County, Fla., Terry Power offered to pay his wife of nearly 20 years $5,400 per month in alimony until he retired, and $50,000 in cash. He also was willing …

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Adoption Case Brings Rare Family Law Dispute To High Court

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Family Law

Take the usual agony of an adoption dispute. Add in the disgraceful U.S. history of ripping Indian children from their Native American families. Mix in a dose of initial fatherly abandonment. And there you have it — a poisonous and …

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10 Top Ways to Fight Parental Alienation

Posted By: Matt
Date: 03/01/2013
Category: Divorce Family Law

There is much debate as to whether or not “parental alienation“ rises to the level of a definable mental illness often referred to as “parental alienation syndrome.”  At Mr. Custody Coach, we don’t much care about that part of the argument.  Reasonably intelligent …

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The Latest iPhone and iPad Apps to Help Lawyers

Posted By: Matt
Date: 02/05/2013
Category: Technology

Scroll the Smarter Way: The Latest iPhone and iPad Apps to Help Lawyers Work More Efficiently The most downloaded iPhone and iPad applications may be the hit cartoon game Angry Birds, the popular social network Facebook and the Internet radio …

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Top Ten Reasons to Hire a Lawyer

Posted By: Matt
Date: 01/25/2013
Category: Divorce Family Law

Not every legal matter requires the use of an attorney. Fighting a speeding ticket and going to small claims courts are two examples. However, in many other situations involving a legal dispute, challenge, or deal, you may not wish to …

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Boosting Parent/Child Communication After Your Divorce

Posted By: Matt
Date: 12/10/2012
Category: Divorce Family Law

Boosting Parent/Child Communication After Your Divorce It’s no secret that one of the biggest challenges a parent faces after divorce is communicating with your children. All parents struggle with communication issues as their children grow, but children who have had …

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Special Needs Children and Divorce

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Divorce Family Law

Special Needs Children and Divorce Posted on November 29, 2012 By Sherri Donovan (published in the New York Law Journal, November 15, 2012) Sherri Donovan is owner of Sherri Donovan & Associates and professor at the Gordon F. Derner Institute of Advanced …

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10 Top Ways to Fight Parental Alienation

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Divorce Family Law

10 Top Ways to Fight Parental Alienation There is much debate as to whether or not “parental alienation“ rises to the level of a definable mental illness often referred to as “parental alienation syndrome.”  At Mr. Custody Coach, we don’t much care about …

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Coparenting Sanity – Tips on Dealing with a Narcissist

Posted By: Matt
Date: 11/19/2012
Category: Family Law

There are, thankfully, a few things that you can do when co-parenting with a narcissist which will help to maintain your sanity. These are things that you can do to protect you and your children. You can’t change your ex, …

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What to Do When Co-Parenting Doesn’t Work

Posted By: Matt
Date: 10/24/2012
Category: Divorce Family Law

What to Do When Co-Parenting Doesn’t Work In a good-enough divorce, exes work through feelings of anger, betrayal and loss and arrive at a place of acceptance. Frustrations over the other parent’s values and choices are contained and pushed aside, …

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Holiday Parenting Time Conflicts

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Divorce Family Law

Holiday Parenting Time Conflicts Posted on October 17, 2012 The holiday season can be a stressful time of year for a number of reasons, not the least of which is solving parenting time issues.  Here are some common problems and tips to …

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Mediation Day!

Posted By: Matt
Date: 10/21/2012
Category: Divorce Family Law

Sherri Donovan, Esq. Divorce and Family Lawyer Celebrate Mediation Day: Top 10 Reasons To Mediate Your Divorce Posted: 10/18/2012 12:20 pm October 18, 2012 is Mediation Day. Mediation is a process for resolving conflict and coming to an agreement where decision-making …

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Parental Alienation – Defined

Posted By: Matt
Date: 10/04/2012
Category: Divorce

What is Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS)? By JOHN M. GROHOL, PSYD Founder & Editor-in-Chief   Parental alienation syndrome is a term coined by the late forensic psychiatrist Richard Gardner to describe a phenomenon he witnessed where children were being turned against …

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Parental Alienation

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Divorce

Parental Alienation Not A Mental Disorder, American Psychiatric Association Says By DAVID CRARY 09/21/12 01:50 PM ET EDT NEW YORK — Rebuffing an intensive lobbying campaign, a task force of the American Psychiatric Association has decided not to list the disputed …

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The iPhone Has Passed a Key Security Threshold

Posted By: Matt
Date: 08/15/2012
Category: Technology

SIMSON L. GARFINKEL Monday, August 13, 2012 Jon Han Less than a month after Apple first shipped the iPhone in June 2007, a group called Independent Security Evaluators documented deep security design flaws in the device. Apple’s most embarrassing flub: every iPhone …

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How to save money on your attorney bill

Posted By: Matt
Date: 08/05/2012
Category: Matt Gomez

14 Ways to Minimize Attorney Fees in Your Divorce Case Posted on July 31, 2012 by Donald Wall Lawyers charge hundreds of dollars an hour to represent their clients in a divorce action.  However, the total legal fees incurred in your case are …

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Another top ten ipad apps list!

Posted By: Matt
Date: 07/25/2012
Category: Technology

With the plethora of iPad apps available in the market, it has become quite easy to manage your work and improve your productivity. Although people working in the web design and development field spend most of their time on their PCs and laptops and they would …

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Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Family Law

High-Tech Surveillance of Ex-Lover Costs Surgeon $2 Million Hidden cameras, GPS and keyboard device used to track former lover By Thomas B. ScheffeyAll Articles The Connecticut Law Tribune July 2, 2012 A Hartford jury awarded a Bloomfield medical assistant $2 …

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Email snooping

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Divorce

Ex-Spouse Hit With 20K in Damages for Email Eavesdropping – Klumb v. Goan [Post by Venkat Balasubramani] Klumb v. Goan, 09-cv-115 (E.D. Tenn.; July 19, 2012) Klumb, described by the court as “a wealthy man,” met and married Crystal Goan, a …

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Stress help for children

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Family Law

Helping your children manage distress in the aftermath of a shooting As a parent, you may be struggling with how to talk with your children about a shooting rampage. It is important to remember that children look to their parents …

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Posted By: Matt
Date: 06/15/2012
Category: Family Law

Have $235,000? That’s What It Costs To Raise A Kid Today-Before College  Take your pick. Would you rather buy a 2012 Ferrari or would you rather–have a baby? The choice is yours but the cost for each is about the same. This …

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Initial Consultation

Posted By: Matt
Date: 06/13/2012
Category: Matt Gomez

Consultation Fees: To Charge or Not to Charge, That is the Question. Posted By Irene C. Olszewski, Esq. on June 7, 2012 I recently had a conversation with a group of colleagues about the topic of consultation fees.  To charge for initial …

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Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/25/2012
Category: Matt Gomez

This is the actual flag at our office.  Feels great to see it waving every morning!  Thanks to all those who make that happen! Happy and Safe Memorial Day everyone!

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Humor

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/17/2012
Category: Family Law

The 5 Worst Kids of the Year By Stephanie Rabiner, Esq. on May 9, 2012 5:55 AM | No TrackBacks As Mother’s Day looms closer, you may feel the need to take stock of just how well you’ve raised your kids. Have they always been …

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Clean up Facebook posts

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/16/2012
Category: Family Law

Is A Facebook Page Worth Your Job? E-Discovery And Spoliation In The Age Of Social Media Social media has become a vital way to communicate with friends, family and colleagues. Status updates, tweets and texts have rapidly replaced letters and …

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Gestures Fulfill a Big Role in Language

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/14/2012
Category: Matt Gomez

ScienceDaily (May 8, 2012) — People of all ages and cultures gesture while speaking, some much more noticeably than others. But is gesturing uniquely tied to speech, or is it, rather, processed by the brain like any other manual action? A …

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Video Conferencing

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/10/2012
Category: Technology

SURAT: In an example of courts going tech-savvy, a couple got their divorce approval from local court after the statement of the husband living in the US was recorded through video conferencing on Saturday. The divorce approval was announced on Tuesday after …

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Should your children be involved in your divorce? NO!

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/09/2012
Category: Divorce

Your Children – Should They Be Involved in Your Divorce? February 16th, 2012 The most important thing to understand as a parent going through a divorce is not to involve your children. No matter what the ages of your children, they …

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Careful what you text!

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/04/2012
Category: Divorce

Americans have learned to carefully craft their Facebook postings, and edit and spell-check e-mails. But apparently we don’t give text messages much thought, and they’re providing abundant and effective fodder for divorce attorneys. “A lot of people will draft a …

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Social Media Statistics

Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/03/2012
Category: Technology

How Family Law Attorneys Use Social Media Evidence in Court Cases [infographic] Posted on April 03, 2012 by David The infographic, “How Family Law Attorneys Use Social Media Evidence in Court Cases,” provided by Dishon & Block Family Law Attorneys, …

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Posted By: Matt
Date: 05/01/2012
Category: Divorce

Things You Should Never Say To Your Divorce Lawyer Posted: 03/12/2012 3:10 am I have specialized in family law for over 40 years. I have seen almost every possible scenario, and I would like to share some things clients have …

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Swearing in!

Posted By: Matt
Date: 04/27/2012
Category: Family Law

Congratulations to Judge Mark Barcus on being sworn in this afternoon at the Tulsa County Courthouse.  Congratulations on his appearance last night on OETA “Ask a Lawyer as well.  I saw a lot of friends on their answering questions.  It has been …

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My First Entry

Posted By: Matt
Date: 04/05/2012
Category: Matt Gomez

I have wanted a blog of my own since I first heard the depressing sounding word! And now I have it! One more thing I can mark off the list. Of course, there is still become rich and famous and …

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Ipad!

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Technology

The iPad for Litigators The new iPad is out today! The new iPad is out today! The new iPad is out today! OK, that may not be as funny as Steve Martin’s screams about being in the new phone book …

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Discovery in Divorce cases

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Family Law

POSTED BY BVERTZ, APR 18, 2012 • DIVORCE, SETTLEMENT • NO COMMENTS Resolving a divorce requires a lot of information. The process of exchanging information and documents is formally known as “discovery.” Our courts have issued rules that litigants must follow when requesting discovery and responding those …

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New Tulsa County Judge!

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Family Law

New Tulsa County special judge Department of Human Services attorney, Tammy Bruce, has been chosen as new special judge for Tulsa County. Tulsa World News Item

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Common Law Marriage

Posted By: Matt
Date:
Category: Family Law

Oklahoma is one of only a few states to recognize common law marriages. But it’s not as common as it might seem. Are my lover and I common law spouses after living together for six months? Not on that basis …

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